Niki treats marriage no differently than she would a first date or a hookup. There is no sense of commitment. She lives like a single person and does not see issues with texting other men and asking to stay the night, or coming home late at 3:30 am with other men totally drunk, not coming home until the next day with no communication ahead of time. She does not differentiate a hug from sex. When confronted, she says this is normal and that i just need to drop the subject and forget about it.
I don’t think marriage counseling will help here. There were several times during our marriage that I contemplated counseling and also suggested this to Niki. With all that has happened over a short span of 5 years, I believe that in my best interest, I need to file for divorce. I suck at this sort of thing obviously. I should have filed for divorce during our first year of marriage and really I should have canceled the wedding when I found that she was cheating. And here I am 5 years later.