Through the five years of our marriage, there were countless occasions where Niki would get drunk at home and become belligerent with either her daughter or myself. Arguments would ensue and escalate to screaming on many occasions. I found myself yelling on many occasions. This did not help. I’ve learned to control my yelling and remain composed. It just causes things to escalate even more.
Many times Niki’s ex husband had to be called to take his son home and get him away from all of the arguing and commotion. Both of her children witness their mother on several occasions threatening suicide by hanging and on one occasion she threatend to smash her car into something to kill herself. Her kids were present during at least three occasions where she said she would kill herself.
Several occasions where her daughter and I would look for and find empty or full Vodka bottles hidden around the house. We would dispose of any full or partially full bottles. I would estimate that we did this 10 to 15 times over the course of the 5 years. Each time we did this would cause an escalation in the home with screaming and slamming of doors etc.
I’ve never cheated on Niki but for some reason she thinks that when I travel that I’ll cheat on her. She said she does this because her ex Mike cheated. I have a feeling that’s not true and that just the opposite is true.
Over the course of 5 years, Niki would bring up her ex boyfriend from Texas as well as other boyfriends
She told me one time to get a job like Mike in the oil industry. I remember this well. I was driving on Grampian Blvd at the time with her and I was complaining about my job. Not a big deal, just weird of her to say.
She stated that they built a home in Montoursville and that the home was amazing.
She would tell stories about how her and Mike and his friends would go to the Old Corner bar and have big parties all the time.
She would tell me how her and Mike would hang out with the Allisons and the extravagant parties.
She stated that Mike and her built a home in Texas that was $600,000.00 and had a very nice pool.
She would tell me stories about her and Mike’s trip to Punta Cana and how nice that trip was.
She would tell me stories about how she needed to buy a very expensive dress for a party with Mike.
She told me about Mike’s trips with hunting dogs.
She told me stories about Mike’s fishing trips with his co-workers.
I do not know Mike, but I know more about him than Niki knows about my ex wife of 23 years and 3 kids. Niki does not know the names of any of my prior girlfriends. I don’t talk about them. Why would i?
Niki would talk about Bill and their trip to Virginia. Her son and daughter went with them in 2017 where Niki needed to go to the hospital to have her stomach pumped because she drank too much. Her daughter found her passed out in the hallway where she also soiled herself. Her daughter was about 14 at that time. Her daughter had her birthday on this day.
Niki mentioned on several occasions how her ex Bill had taken them to go shooting.
Niki spoke about several of her ex’s at different times over the 5 years. Mike, Anthony, Bill, Nick, Cory mostly, and now let’s add Lance to the mix. She talked about a cop that she dated and on one occasion how she was drunk and got her first DUI because he would not let her stay the night. She would tell stories about all of them from time to time. She said Mike cheated. Anthony was abusive. Bill cheated, Cory was an Airborne combat veteran with PTSD. They made trips to Buffalo for her marathon etc. Many stories about all of these guys over the years. She brings up Mike the most and at one point it was weekly and of course I had some concerns that she was not over him.